EFT Couples Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples is currently available.  People often request assistance in healing relational wounds, sharing feelings, thoughts, needs, values and boundaries, nurturing skills and communication tools, re-establishing  sexual intimacy and/or trust,  restoring joy, as well as navigating issues related to addiction or other "survival-based" coping mechanisms that have wounded attachment bonds.  Couples also seek counselling to explore the possibility of separation with dignity, grace, and mutual respect.  

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known humanistic approach, developed in tandem with adult attachment theory.   In session, we will have the opportunity to nurture  what is referred to as the A-R-E's of Intimacy - exchanges that are  Accessible, Responsive and Engaged.    These  patterns  or  interpersonal dynamics can look like the following examples: 

- one partner attacks or pursues and the other withdraws  = attack-withdraw pattern

- both parters fight = attack-attack pattern

- both partners isolate or stop communicating = withdraw-withdraw pattern 

Once we have an understanding  of your patterned dynamics, including your emotions, thoughts and neuro/body sensations (ie: tight chest, neck or slumped back) we can focus on deepening each person's inter-relational ways to communicate and share helpful tools/supports when needed. 

Helpful Video Links by Miriam

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BxkaFsvb_oM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUcB3-dyZNw&t=4s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mjM0Ngug-H8